Wow, that was… quite a story. First, I would like to thank you for sharing it, and second, I would like to say I’m sorry you went through such an ordeal but am very happy you came out of it.
The advice was intended for me only. It may or may not resonate with others and I’m perfectly accepting of that.
You have a point. We rely on each other all the time and we have to, if you think about it, in order to have a functional society. We rely on police to apprehend criminals, doctors to diagnose and treat us, teachers to instruct us, family to give us love and support… the list goes on and on. I have a heart condition and rely on my cardiologist’s expertise all the time. It’s a double-edged sword, I think, because as much as we need to rely on others to thrive, there’s no guarantee that they can be relied upon. People are unreliable (for a variety of reasons), and anything could happen at any time. Where you had people there for you when you faced death, others die alone with nothing and no one. Others also pull through with nothing and no one. I find it’s best not to assume the help of others. Hope for it, and be grateful when it’s given, but be prepared – as prepared as you can be – to face things alone. "I'm on my own" may not be the most optimistic viewpoint, and it may not apply to all circumstances (and when you get down to it, what viewpoint does apply to all circumstances? I don't think there are many), but from what I've seen, it's the healthiest way to be. After all, it’s not like others can experience what you’re experiencing for you. Even if they do everything within their power to help in any way they can, they do not live in your head and cannot force you to do or feel anything, and so in that way you are on your own.
(By the way, sorry for the late reply. These last few days have been hectic.)