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I'm reading this book called When Things Fall Apart by an American Buddhist nun named Pema Chodron, and I thought I'd share some passages from it with you all—passages that really struck a chord with me.
"The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is to practice gentleness and letting go. We can learn to meet whatever arises with curiosity and not make it such a big deal. Instead of struggling against the force of confusion, we could meet it and relax. When we do that, we gradually discover that clarity is always there." (Pg. 27)
"When we talk about hopelessness and death, we're talking about facing the facts. No escapism. We may still have addictions of all kinds, but we cease to believe in them as a gateway to happiness. So many times we've indulged the short-term pleasure of addiction. We've done it so many times that we know that grasping at this hope is a source of misery that makes a short-term pleasure a long-term hell." (Pp. 44-45)
"In order to feel compassion for other people, we have to feel compassion for ourselves. In particular, to care about people who are fearful, angry, jealous, overpowered by addictions of all kinds, arrogant, proud, miserly, selfish, mean, you name it—to have compassion and to care for these people means not to run from the pain of finding these things in ourselves." (Pg. 93)
"When we hold on to our opinions with aggresion, no matter how valid our cause, we are simply adding more aggresion to the planet, and violence and pain increase. Cultivating nonaggresion is cultivating peace. The way to stop the war is to stop hating the enemy. It starts with seeing our opinions of ourselves and of others as simply our take on reality and not making them a reason to increase the negativity on the planet." (Pg. 111)
"When we feel squeezed, there's a tendency for mind to become small. We feel miserable, like a victim, like a pathetic, hopeless case. So believe it or not, at that moment of hassle or bewilderment or embarrassment, our minds could become bigger. Instead of taking what's occured as a statement of personal weakness or someone else's power, instead of feeling we are stupid or someone else is unkind, we could drop all the complaints about ourselves and others. We could be there, feeling off guard, not knowing what to do, just hanging out there with the raw and tender energy of the moment." (Pg. 117)
I've never been a big fan of "self-help" books. Most of the ones I've come across just seemed very bullshit-y to me. But I have to say, this one is amazing. I don't necessarily agree with every single thing Chodron says, but she has opened my eyes. She's gotten me to think in ways I've never thought in before. Highly recommend the book!
"The painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is to practice gentleness and letting go. We can learn to meet whatever arises with curiosity and not make it such a big deal. Instead of struggling against the force of confusion, we could meet it and relax. When we do that, we gradually discover that clarity is always there." (Pg. 27)
"When we talk about hopelessness and death, we're talking about facing the facts. No escapism. We may still have addictions of all kinds, but we cease to believe in them as a gateway to happiness. So many times we've indulged the short-term pleasure of addiction. We've done it so many times that we know that grasping at this hope is a source of misery that makes a short-term pleasure a long-term hell." (Pp. 44-45)
"In order to feel compassion for other people, we have to feel compassion for ourselves. In particular, to care about people who are fearful, angry, jealous, overpowered by addictions of all kinds, arrogant, proud, miserly, selfish, mean, you name it—to have compassion and to care for these people means not to run from the pain of finding these things in ourselves." (Pg. 93)
"When we hold on to our opinions with aggresion, no matter how valid our cause, we are simply adding more aggresion to the planet, and violence and pain increase. Cultivating nonaggresion is cultivating peace. The way to stop the war is to stop hating the enemy. It starts with seeing our opinions of ourselves and of others as simply our take on reality and not making them a reason to increase the negativity on the planet." (Pg. 111)
"When we feel squeezed, there's a tendency for mind to become small. We feel miserable, like a victim, like a pathetic, hopeless case. So believe it or not, at that moment of hassle or bewilderment or embarrassment, our minds could become bigger. Instead of taking what's occured as a statement of personal weakness or someone else's power, instead of feeling we are stupid or someone else is unkind, we could drop all the complaints about ourselves and others. We could be there, feeling off guard, not knowing what to do, just hanging out there with the raw and tender energy of the moment." (Pg. 117)
I've never been a big fan of "self-help" books. Most of the ones I've come across just seemed very bullshit-y to me. But I have to say, this one is amazing. I don't necessarily agree with every single thing Chodron says, but she has opened my eyes. She's gotten me to think in ways I've never thought in before. Highly recommend the book!
I know it's been a while
Wow, it's been a hot minute since I've journaled. Work has been kicking my butt and I've been exhausted after getting home. The Dracula ballet I mentioned in my last journal was wonderful, my Thanksgiving, birthday, and Christmas were good, and my new year brings the resolution of reading more since I did very little of it last year. In other news, I made a horrible mistake. You may have noticed that I've taken down the Simba painting as well as well as the Jack, Sally, and Zero painting. It was brought to my attention that these were copies of other people's art pieces. I was completely unaware. I assumed the Simba picture I used as reference was a screenshot from the movie. I'd literally typed "Simba's roar screenshot" into Google and that was one of the images that came up, and I didn't bother to see where it was from. I can't remember where I found the picture of Jack, Sally and Zero but I know there was no artist attached to it. I feel horrible and stupid, and I am immensely
Onwards and Upwards
It’s been a while and I apologize for that. I’ve been overloaded at work and pretty much zombified by the time I get home. Two weekends ago, on the 7th, I went to the Renaissance festival in North Carolina that I mentioned in my last journal. I’m so glad I did. It was fantastic… and huge! They had everything you could think of: jousting, blacksmithing, music, rides, a circus act, comedy acts, a gypsy dance, a mock knighthood ceremony, shops galore, and even a dungeon. I walked around until I couldn’t walk anymore, and I still didn’t get to see it all. If you’re ever in or around North Carolina, I strongly recommend checking it out. It's in Huntersville and it runs for several weekends throughout the year. ;) I’m still doing artwork. I just finished a Christmas present for a friend of mine (which took a while since it was very detailed) and I’m planning on doing two Halloween-esqe paintings before the month is out. In other news, on the weekend before Halloween, I’ll be going
Fun things had and coming
I went to the comic con at the end of July. It was a lot of fun but extremely crowded. I could barely take a step without running into a person. I think I said "excuse me" more than anything else, haha. The highlight was getting to meet Vincent D’Onofrio--one of my favorite actors since I was a teen! He was a complete gentleman and loved the painting I did for him. I also got to meet Don Bluth, the creator of some of my favorite movies from childhood, and that was a thrilling experience as well. Oh, and the cosplays! Some of them were amazing! There were some downsides to the trip--namely the horrendous traffic, and there were two protesters outside the door professing damnation and hellfire to anyone who entered (which I did not expect and thought was weird)--but overall it was a great joy and I'm immensely glad I went. I’m still making plans to do fun stuff. Once the weather cools down (since I’m not fond of heat), I intend to do some outdoors activities. There are a few Civil
A storm trooper no longer
I’m sans boot now (yay!) and have switched to an ankle brace. The brace is much more comfortable than the boot—not to mention lighter—but there is a downside: it won’t fit inside any of my shoes, even my tennis shoes. I can wear a flipflop over it, but I’ve been advised not to do that unless walking a very short distance. I don’t exactly have the money to spend on sturdy, roomy shoes, so it’s (ugly ass) crocs for a few weeks out in public. Including at work. But you know, I’ll take any improvement I can get. In other news, my sister had her second surgery this year, this one to remove an abdominal hernia. It went well and she’s been having a smooth recovery, but I can tell she’s pretty much done with medical stuff and I don’t blame her one bit. I’m still making plans for things to do this summer. Some of my plans have had to be put on hold due to my injury (like kayaking), but there’s a comic con not too far from me in late July that I’m determined to go to. One of my favorite
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